3 Things to Remember in the Dream Pursuit
Psst! This is a guest post from guest expert, Ashton Long!
It’s one thing to dream big, but it’s another thing to act big.
As ambitious, driven, passionate women, not only are we creating wild dreams, but we are taking huge action towards them.
In the process of taking huge action, it’s so easy to get derailed. It’s easy to deny our accomplishments in the face of other people’s accomplishments that may seem bigger than ours.
It’s easy to discredit how far we’ve come in the midst of other’s going even further.
It’s easy to become impatient in our dream pursuit as we constantly scroll through Instagram seeing success after success after success.
It’s easy to operate from a constant place of striving rather than a natural state of resting.
Here’s the deal: the dream living and breathing in your heart is full of purpose. It’s not just floating around in the cobwebs of your mind to taunt you. The fact that it’s in your heart is proof of its validity.
So, in the midst of action taking, exiting your comfort zone, failing hard, learning big time, and pressing through the discomfort, don’t lose sight of that truth. You are the only one who can bring your dream to life, and it is your responsibility to do so.
When it feels slow and hard, embrace the truth that the process is preparing you to carry the weight of your wildest dreams. Without the process, you wouldn’t be ready. It is where you are strengthened and refined. It is vital to the dream pursuit.
As you are being brave and showing up for your dreams,
here’s three things to keep in mind:
1| Failure is proof of risk-taking (and that’s a GOOD thing).
Before you even start, accept the fact that you are going to fail.
As an ambitious woman showing up in huge ways, trying new things, and stepping outside of your comfort zone, you are going to hit failure along the way (many times). Failure is evidence of bravery.
The presence of failure means that you took a huge risk, made a big move, and tried something a little scary. Celebrate that!
Instead of allowing a failed experience to label you as a “failure,” view the failure as feedback. It is NOT the end of your story, rather a lesson learned along the way. Embrace it. Every success story is filled with tons of failure.
2| Fear will show up. Don’t let it paralyze you.
The greatest mistake you can make is doing nothing because you’re afraid that things won’t work out perfectly.
NEWSFLASH: nothing is ever going to be perfect. Accept that fact, and allow your journey to unravel imperfectly.
Additionally, ditch the concept of being “fearless.” As a human being, fear is hard-wired into your makeup. It’s a protective mechanism that is there to serve you.
Rather than trying to eliminate fear entirely (cause chick, that ain’t possible), move through the fear. Do the thing that deeply matters to you. Do it afraid. Do it uncertain. Do it imperfectly. Just do it.
You have to move through the fear to reach the place you deeply desire.
3| Immersing yourself in community will keep the dream alive.
Although much of the responsibility to show up, do the work, and press through falls on you, being in an encouraging community of like-minded individuals will help tremendously.
When we’re stuck in our own heads, feeling the pain of failure, and doubting ourselves big time, it’s easy for lies to creep in. And the best way to eradicate the lies is to become immersed in the truth.
Find a community of truth speakers and light spreaders that will cheer you on along the way. Sometimes, you just need a little nudge towards remembering who you really are despite the setbacks.
And don’t forget to speak up and reach out when you need help. Don’t isolate yourself in the midst of the struggle. Know that you are not alone, and by being plugged into an uplifting community, you will build more endurance to continue pursuing the dream you deeply desire.
The fact that you’re reading this is proof that you are freaking brave, my dear.
You’re showing up. You’re acknowledging the dream despite how big it may feel. You’re taking up space in the midst of uncertainty. You’re committing to pursue that which deeply matters to you. And that, my dear, is a revolutionary act in itself.
Keep pressing forward, knowing that the journey is well worth it.